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kids ? over my dead body !

Why I dont want kids

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I went to see a friend last night, whom I hadn't seen for quite some time.

He mentioned that last time he saw his mother, she flipped out after another friend commented, yet again, that�they should really have kids. There was some comment along the lines of "but it's obvious Mateusz is gagging for kids".

I almost fell over when he told me that last bit. Sure, I love kids - love 'em to bits. They're cute and funny and always surprise you and do things you'd never dream of because they haven't acquired inhibitions yet. They ask funny questions, which are actually quite serious. Their thirst for knowledge is unquenchable.

And then they cry, or shout, or run away from home, or kick the walls in or damage other property.

No thank you. No really - I love your kids - because when they get shitty, you can have them back, thank you very much.

I have two reasons for not wanting kids, and the selfish aspect of not wanting to deal with little shits, however cute they are, is one of them. I'm just selfish, I want to keep my money and time to myself.

The second is the fact that I want to focus on my career. I have gotten in many confrontations with some of my " girl" friends and some girl which I wouldnt qualify as " friends" about this second reason. They always say " what ?? What do u mean u dont want kids ? what will ur purpose in life be ? maybe ur sick ? umm ladies relax. just because u believe in going to work instead of educating yourself and then birthing kids one after another starting at around the age of 20 is fine. I have my own belief about that but I keep it to myself. I understand when the pregnany is unexpected. But why anyone would actualy plan a kid at 20 or 21 is beyond me. Maybe people like that are stuck in their medieval beliefs. I dont judge you ( at least out loud) so dont judge me on the fact that I really dont want kids. I just dont . THis isnt something I� came to while drinking a captain and coke. I have thought about this decision for many years and I do not have the drive or the will or the longing for a child.

What I wanna do is complete my school then get married and enjoy my life with my husband. Sure I will be thrilled when my brothers have kids and I become an aunt but thats as far as that will go .

My life is my own and I do what makes me happy .

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