Small Penis Complex.

People who are insecure about their reality will often try and compensate for what they lack, because they are desperate for the attention and acceptance they do not achieve by being their authentic self.  I call this a "small penis complex" (or S.P.C for short) because this behavior is observed most commonly in men who are insecure about their small penis.   It's not just men with small penises who suffer from this disorder, anybody can.  People who pretend to be well-liked, rich, smart, and even happy, can also be diagnosed with a SPC. 

Identifying this behavior as "compensation" is not very hard to do.  Usually it is comprised of 2 - 3 aspects of a subject's personality.

Constant bragging is one.   Since these kind of people lack recognition and praise for their true accomplishments and personality,  they manufacture achievements and traits that other's may find attractive.  For example a man with a small penis may tell others that he instead has a large penis. He may also accompany these statements with false stories about acceptance and praise they achieved with their "large penis" like;  "my last girlfriend broke up with me because my penis was too big, and didn't fit into her tight vagina".   In very severe cases where the subject is extremely desperate for attention, he/she may even go as far as to pretend to be someone else.  They do this in an attempt to add credibility to their lies.   For example, a man with a small penis may make a fake facebook account, pretending to be a female that can and will vouch for his "large penis". 

Now, there is a small chance that a suspected compensator is actually telling the truth, and may just be someone with an extremely large ego.  To insure that this is not one of those very rare occurrences, we look to the second way to identify someone as having a Small Penis Complex.

Give your subject the benefit of a doubt.  For one, it's never safe to assume to be right, without proof.   You can not assume that someone who claims to have a large penis, actually has a small one, until you are proven correct, or incorrect.    Someone who is boasting the truth, usually is very outgoing and will not have a problem with trying to prove you wrong about them.    To demonstrate, again we will use the small vs big penis example. 

Subject: " I have a large penis"
You: "You may very well have a large penis, but I have my doubts.  I will need more proof before I believe your statement"

A subject's reaction to your rebuttal will determine whether or not they are in fact someone who suffers from a Small Penis Complex. 

If they are willing to show you their penis (proof), and they do, and it turns out to be as large (true) as they state, they are telling the truth.  These people are ones who brag for other reasons than compensating for what they don't, and wish they did have, and do not fall under the Small Penis Complex category.

Those who avoid providing proof are usually the ones who have a S.P.C.    Because these people are not being honest, it's impossible for them to prove you wrong in a conclusive and definite manner.   Unfortunately, these people are far too insecure about the truth to admit to it.  Instead they carry out other forms of immature behavior in desperate attempts to avoid the embarrassment of being wrong, such as;

Making excuses.  These people are all about trying to make you believe what they would like you to believe.  This does not stop at bragging, and will often carry on into making up excuses to not have to follow through and justify their boasts.   These excuses usually tend to come off as ironically convenient for the subject. For example, a man may pretend to have a big penis by telling people he does, but also claim to have values that prevent him from showing it to people, as proof.  "I don't show people who I am not in a sexual relationship with, my penis" or "I would, but the cold weather is making my penis retreat into my body for warmth, and it would be impossible to show it's real size at this time".   They do this in a hopeful attempt to limit their accuser's options to a point where they  "have to take their word for it". 

Changing the Subject.  Due to it's simplicity,  this tactic is one of the more immature ways people with SPC avoid embarrassment.  The major flaw in this technique is that the subject often believes that their accusers have the same, or a smaller attention span as they do.   They believe that if they abruptly start talking about something completely different, that their accuser will forget about the previous topic, and stop trying to hold the subject accountable to their false claims.

Being Offensive.  Most people with a SPC turn to this technique when they are cornered.  Part of what makes a person develop a SPC is the desire to appear better than others, to others.  So it only makes sense for these people to take the more dominant role of offense whenever they see the opportunity.
For example:
Accuser: I don't believe you have a large penis.  Prove to me that you are right.
Subject:  Why do you want to see my penis so bad?  Are you a homosexual pervert?
This demonstration shows that the subject refuses to defend himself, because he does not want to show weakness in defeat, and would much rather stay on the offensive where he is less exposed to accusations.   Like Changing the Subject, the subject may believe that if they abruptly start accusing, that their accuser will forget about the previous topic, and stop trying to hold the subject accountable to their false claims.

Now, if you're suffering from SPC, and would like to rid your personality of this childish trait, there is a step by step program you can try. 

Step 1.  Usually for most disorders, admitting that you have a problem would be the first step.  But, people with SPC are incapable of doing that.  So the first step here is to gauge the reactions to your boasts.   Do people actually believe you when you brag?  Secondly, Do people actually (key word there)  envy your false success and traits?   If you still feel the need to brag about shit that isn't true,  the answer to those questions are "No. They don't."  Which brings us to the next step.

Step 2.  Stop bragging.  Even if your claims do hold some truth to them, it's important that you stop bragging about it.  Nobody is going to care, or be sad if you stop lying to them. 

Step 3.  Show weakness.  This is going to be the hardest part for most people who have a SPC. But if you can do this, you are well on your way to recovery.  Experiencing embarrassment can be very cleansing.  Not only that, many normal people know that, being able to show weakness and admitting fault is actually an act of strength.  Many people actually authentically envy those who can admit to being wrong, and are not afraid to act like a human being who makes mistakes, like all real humans do. 

Step 4.  Improve your priorities.  Think long and hard about what you would like people to know you for.   At some point in your life you are going to want someone to love and accept you for who you really are.   It's impossible to attract that person into your life, if you're unwilling to be yourself.   Is it more important that people think you have a big penis, or that you have a great personality? 
When you prioritize these values properly, you will gain the acceptance and praise you will never be able to achieve by always being caught in lies. 

Step 5. Choose better surroundings and associates.  The only reason you believe that having a big penis is important, is because the people around you think that way.   There are actually people out there who would rather get to know you, before they get to know your genitalia.  Chances are those are the kind of people who will make you the happiest.

If you think this blog is about you... that means you need help.  Please save the excuses and offensive remarks to someone who doesn't know what you're up to. 

Uploaded 06/22/2011
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