Do as I say-not as I did
If you are in a heated argument and your wife asks you this question, "Do you want me to leave here?". Always, ALWAYS let her explain what here actually is. I said "Where is here?" To this she responded "Where do you think here is?" Hmmmmm. A fill in the blank test...never did like these. So I answer "Let's see. Here could be this room, this house or this marriage."
I will give you one guess as to which option she didn't like. This took the argument in a completely unexpected direction. I was now the jagoff who wanted a divorce. All the anger and frustration she had became "justified" and she let it fly! I nearly had to apply one of my last resort protection methods. This is when I lay still and play dead. I figure, if it can save a person from a grizzly attack, I stand a chance with her.
Instead, I let her vent until she went too far. 'There is my chance!' I thought. I took hold of that slip up and held on to it like it was gold. She knew it too because I kept circling back to that point. After a few more tangents and rants we finally got to the core issue. That settled things down quickly. We get along great once we clear the air. Keeping the air clean. Now that is the tricky part.