We hear a lot about toxic masculinity. About how it fuels violence, resentment, and more than a few school shootings. But is there such a...
We hear a lot about toxic masculinity. About how it fuels violence, resentment, and more than a few school shootings.
But is there such a thing as
toxic femininity? The answer is "yes," and here are the craziest examples!
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Girls who hit guys because they know the guy won’t hit them back-u/Snu99lyN1pples
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Placing your entire self-worth on being desirable to men, or assuming any woman who dislikes you must be jealous of your desirability. Not knowing who you are without male attention.-u/audreymarilynvivien
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Mother hens (matriarchs) controlling their group of friends: where they do, what they do, who they meet and associate with. Controlling people’s behavior basically-u/heatseekerdj
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Sh*tting on stay at home moms or Sex Workers because you don't understand their choices. Feminism means we all get to choose our own path. Not everyone wants a high-powered career and that's Ok.-u/OlderWiserLesbian
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Slut-shaming other women and buying into the Madonna-whore dichotomy.-u/audreymarilynvivien
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Fake domestic violence or rape accusations-deleted user
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Expecting all the affection and love in the world from their boyfriends and never showing a glimpse of it towards them. Men DO have feelings you know?-u/nabedid
8
Just dropping an ‘I hate men’ into a conversation with male coworkers. I have no idea how to respond to it and feel bad.-u/WHOOPS_WHOOPSIE
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Testing. This applies to testing their romantic partners just as much as their friends/family. Where they intentionally put someone in a situation that is rigged against them in order to judge them in some fashion based on their reaction.I'm not claiming this is a feminine-only trait, but in my personal experience I've seen it come from women much more than men.My sister's friend recently gave her permission to pursue a guy they were mutually attracted to. My sister did, and it turned out that the friend was only testing to see if my sister was "a real friend" or not. Yikes.-u/Aequitas2116
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Abusive or possessive behavior, not only towards their husband/wife, but also towards friends and family.The classic “if you scream at me, I’ll call the police and tell them you hit me even though I’m the wrong here”-u/Strong_Month_3534
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Believing that its a man's job to impress her when she's dating. F*ck that, if you like someone ACT AS THOUGH YOU LIKE THEM. Dating is an equal exchange of time and emotional labor, if she feels like she needs further financial compensation beyond that (paying for the food/show/whatever it is) then maybe she doesn’t like him enough.-u/BrainHurtingJuice129
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Is it just me or is the term “Happy wife, happy life!” a little messed up? I’ve mostly been told this from women but idk it sounds purely a way to be controlling of your partner-u/Public-Juggernaut-56
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Being unable to critize another woman for sh*t she did since "women support each other". Has the exact same energy as frat guys saying "bro code".-u/Bi_Aint_Shi
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Last week: 3 women admiring my fiancé’s new engagement ring (which is a bit flashy)My fiancé tells them it’s lab-made, which is what she wantedOne of them responded with “Oh, that doesn’t count then”-u/VertibirdGoBoom
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"All other girls are b*tches" If you're a girl and think that, that's a you problem-u/Frogs-r-fun
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I see a lot of body-positive women that sh*t on my girlfriend for working out and keeping her body hairless. They always say she should be more loving of her body and embrace her body hair.It’s annoying. She does it cause SHE likes it. She goes to the gym and does deadlifts cause it empowers her and makes her feel AMAZING. Like, we all have different ideals and visions for our life. And after moisturizing herself and shaving she likes to rub her legs together like a cricket, and nobody should be taking that little slice of heaven from her.-u/Euowol
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Basically expecting a partner to put up with your drama as proof of them actually being into you/making them jump through hoops to prove they’re into you.-u/Laleena_
18
Whatever is happening in Facebook birthing/mom groups. Some women are so out of touch with reality and high on toxic femininity that they think their uteruses are better than any doctor and that their feminine intuition supersedes any medical testing or intervention available today. Women are being brainwashed into skipping fetal testing and to avoid medical intervention even in life or death situations. It is literally killing mothers and babies and injuring a lot more.-u/no_ovaries_
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Queen bee bullying at the workplace. Basically, letting high school never end. About 60% of women experience it.Men bully as well, but women bullying women isn't even acknowledged as a problem most of the time.-u/raxeira-etterath
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Shaming other girls/women for not doing/liking the same things you do and implying that their preferences make them "not real women" or similar. Basically saying that your way to be a woman is the only valid way.-u/rinky79
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"If you gave birth through c-section, you're not a real mom."What. The. F*ck? Suddenly 9 months of pregnancy, a terrifying procedure and caring for a newborn doesn't count because MacDuff from his mother's womb was untimely ripped? Whose baby is this then, since apparently, no mothers are present?-u/CaptValentine
22
Makeup and fashion fans bullying you for how you show your femininity and performing it not being your priority. If your makeup is not flawless and in trend, not okay. If you don't wear feminine, flattering clothes, not okay.-u/throwaway_thursday32
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I've started reading a lot of forums of expecting mothers and mothers, and is terrifying to see how much pressure there is regarding birthing and motherhood: "you'll never be a proper mother if you have a c-section"; "you will never bond properly/be a good mother if you don't breastfeed"; "if you don't do X or Y or Z your child will be unhappy/unloved/will die and it will be your fault".And measuring a woman's worth over the power of their vaginas: "shame on you for doing IVF", "there must be something wrong if you had only miscarriages", "adopting is fine, but is the acceptance of failure", "bio moms are best moms".-u/Kaliforniah
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My ex-boss (female) who spoke about feminism and woman empowerment and then gave my female colleague anxiety attacks though persistent bullying.-u/peoplecallmedude797
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Trying to dodge responsibility and accountability for bad behavior by shouting "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best."-u/neobeguine
