30 Things That People Only Recently Learned.

Things they should have already known.

Published 2 years ago

Things they should have already known.

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If you're going to take inappropriate selfies, disable the photo sync to your mom's icloud first.

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Quality matters more than quantity when it comes to friends. I started to notice that most of my friends weren’t really my friends, only drinking buddies, and it hindered my process of getting sober for awhile. i didn’t want to lose them. but then i realized that if they couldn’t be with me in my sobriety journey, they couldn’t be in my life at all. I’m 67 days into cutting back, and twelve days into not touching alcohol at all. my life is better without those people. i only have three friends now but it’s worth it. the support and encouragement i get from them outweighs the sadness of losing everyone else.

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It's better to be alone than in an unfulfilling/abusive relationship. Don't continue dating someone if you constantly think "give it time, things might get better". That puts you in a never ending loop that becomes more difficult to get out of as time goes on.

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Doves are literally just white pigeons. Not similar, or related to, the exact same bird. Pigeons with white privilege

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I didn’t learn it recently but I learned it earlier in life, don’t share stuff with your coworkers. Just mind your own business.

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Other women know how to clasp their bra behind their back. As a teen I learned to clasp it in front of me then twist it around awkwardly... and then never stopped doing that

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Don't compare yourself with someone else. You are not them and you do not have their abilities or weaknesses. Use your yardstick on you. Compare yourself in terms of how you have done in the past. It is more accurate. And be kind to yourself if you are making strides and mistakes.

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Tall, white, loud men get more respect than anyone, no matter how stupid they are.

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That if I am unfulfilled as an individual my partner will never be able to fulfill me either. Similar to if you don’t love yourself you can’t unconditionally love others.

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That cows only produce milk after they've had a baby. Farmers forcibly impregnate them and take their calves away so they can sell the milk to humans. I always thought they just made milk all the time, which seems stupid in retrospect.

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Exercising does actually feel good and it’s not just pretentious claims made by fit af influencers!

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Not to mess with my birth control, the hormone unbalance was a unpleasant experience.

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A consistent sleep schedule and plenty of sleep every night actually works. It won’t cure your depression/chronic illness/various maladies, but it makes it much easier to face them in the morning. And when I say morning, I mean it: even if you’re semi-nocturnal like me, it is so much easier to get important stuff done during the day. This is the most annoying realisation I’ve had all year, but brains simply work better when they are rested and refreshed.

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What getting tires rotated actually means. Also that the line in Billy Joel's "We didn't start the fire" is "trouble in the Suez" not "trouble in the sewers."

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« Everything worth doing is worth doing half-a*s ». You can do a part of something it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can clean a room and not the whole house. You can eat a salad with your burger. We have a tendency to be « everything has to be done 110% » or it’s not worth it. I think about people who laugh at people taking a diet soda with a burger: well why the hell not? You don’t have to be all in 100% and that makes the pressure more bearable sometimes!

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How to budget my money.... I've cycled in and out of debt for years, could have been really ahead, never knew. Someone taught me and I'm blown away at how remarkably "easy" it is now that I know.

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Replace your pillows every 1–2 years. Lots of mold and allergens get stuck in there. I finally stopped feeling sick when I changed them out.

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If your toilet tank is constantly draining and refilling don’t wait 4 months to fix it. Your water bill is going to be f*****g crazy

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Attachment styles. I'd rule out at least 5 guys that I dated and caused heartache a lot sooner if I had known about attachments styles, particularly Avoidant Attachment styles. Like narcissism, I can now avoid these types of people BUT it came at a great cost to my heart.

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I did not know that the need to pee all the time would start well before the third trimester. I was very unprepared and wondered why these things weren't more commonly discussed or at least why the women in my life hadn't warned me about them

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That “C-Suite” means CEO, CFO, COO. I’m in my 40s and have a corporate job and have worked with all of those positions frequently. I just never thought about what C-Suite actually meant.