Being Single Has Its Perks Too
A relationship is not always what it's cracked up to be.
Published 4 years ago
10
"I’m learning to navigate the world through the lens of my own needs and desires without worrying how I’m being perceived by a partner. I do not believe I will be a good person to be in a relationship until I can do that- so I’m happy to struggle with it. Also I really love dancing poorly to LCD sound system while my dog watches with fear and judgement in his eyes. Not that I couldn’t do that before… it’s just so free to do it in my own apartment alone."
11
"I was engaged but broke it off in July after putting up with a lot of disrespect from him and his family. I had quite a bit of money saved aside for our wedding but now I can spend it on things I’ve wanted for a very long time. I am finally taking care of myself and learning more about who I am as an individual instead of being someone’s fiancé."
12
"I never want to turn the key in the door and have to worry about what is going to on the other side again. I don’t want to have to manage another’s emotions or walk on eggshells. I love the peace that my space is mine alone. I also hate the obligations that tend to come with relationships. I don’t want to attend other people’s events, or buy presents for inlaws etc. Basically, I’m selfish :)"
16
"I read this article a while ago that really clarified my feelings on this. Studies show that people who are married are on average slightly happier than people who are not married. Which has been known for a long time, so people have sort of internalized this idea that marriage equals happiness. But when you break down the numbers in that, what it actually looks like is that people in happy marriages are much happier than everyone else and people in unhappy marriages are much less happy than everyone else. So actually the “slightly happier” figure is pretty meaningless and just shows that slightly more marriages are happier than unhappy—and that’s what that looks like when averaged. So (for those who want it) being in a good relationship is the best situation. But being single is the second best, and far better than being in a bad relationship. Also being single is a better position to be in if you’re looking for a good relationship, because being in a bad one means you have to go through the extra steps of breakup and recovery. Plus when you’re single you’re able to work on all those things about yourself that make your ready for a good relationship. So to me it’s like not the very best, but it is the second best and that’s pretty good. It’s like you don’t have a Jaguar but you have a Honda, and it’s reliable and gets you were you need to go. And at least you’re not driving car from the 70’s with a leak in the fuel-line and a plastic Jaguar-sculpture taped on the hood."
















