Yay for Gays!

I was at work the other day, like most days, but unlike most days one of my co-workers came up to me and asked me if I heard about the actress that just came out in Las Vegas there.   Ellen Paige or some shit? 
I did, I saw it on the news.   I didn't really know how this guy felt about the whole thing, seeing as he was known to be a little racist - but all in good fun.... if you know what I mean.   I just kinda shrugged, and nodded, as if there was more to the story that he was about to tell me.   But I guess that was it.   I sarcastically said "Good for her"... but not too sarcastically, as to not show how I felt about it.
I don't feel about it.   I really don't care if anyone is gay.   I don't think anyone really should.   I believe that as long as you are not hurting anyone, you should just live the life you want to live, because not everyone has that opportunity.   What I don't agree with is the "coming out" bullshit.   
You know for someone who wants equality, coming out at a conference in front of a million or so people you don't know, sure does make them stand out as different.   They must anticipate, at least a little, that from that moment on, they will be treated differently, even by those who agree with their lifestyle.  It's hard to explain, but by that I mean that even those who are not against homosexuality will treat homosexuals different once they know they are gay.   You become that "gay person" first and whatever else you're known for second.  People will want to tell you how proud they are of you, or how they are all supportive of your decision.  
It's not like coming out makes you more gay.   Homosexuals that do not turn their sexuality into a show for all to gawk at, have the freedom to be as gay as they always were, just without the judgment.   To most people, they see someone coming out as an act of courage and pride.   I see it as a grab for attention, and it does nothing but harm the gay community.   It's not equality - it's the opposite.   It draws attention to the differences between homos and heteros.   

Take Clay Aiken for example.   He's gay - he came out.  Big whoop right?    Well it wasn't until he decided to run for office, in what many consider a homophobic state.   Now it's not about what contributions he would bring to North Carolina, it's about whether North Carolina is willing to elect someone who puts penises in his ass to get off.  Well maybe he's more shipper than reciever - I don't know.  Don't care.   
Coming out doesn't change anyone's opinions on the topic either.  It's not like there are people out there who say "I think Ellen is funny - so I guess I like gays now".   It only changes their opinion of you. 
Now let's talk about the full-blown bigots who think that being gay is a sickness or sin.  Or they just don't agree with it enough to insert their opinion whenever the topic comes up.   Whatever their reason, when you come out, the people you're really helping is them.   I know that if I were gay, I wouldn't tell anyone.   I'd actually enjoy conversations with homophobes and homohaters privately.   When you're gay and people know it, very few will have the balls to disagree to your face.  If they don't know, you get to see them in their true form.  And you can laugh on the inside when you think "I can only imagine how embarrassed my friend would be to know that he's friends with someone he claims to hate".   I don't know why anyone would want to deprive themselves of such self-amusement. 
When people treat you the same as everyone else, that's equality.   If you're gay - just be gay.  You don't owe it to anyone to explain yourself, or educate the public.   But the worst thing you can do when trying to tell people that you're just like everyone else, is to announce how different you are.   It's only as big a deal as you make it.    
Straight people don't have to "come out".  Some would say that's because they fall into the norm.  Well if you want to join the norm, you should act like the norm.  No I don't mean change your sexuality, just how you present it.    If I were gay, I'd personally be pretty angry to find that even my fellow homos seem to think that you're not proud of who you are unless you announce it to everyone.   You can't be a brave gay person unless you subject yourself to the ignorance and hate that still exists in this world, partly because "coming out" sets homosexuals and heterosexuals apart.   It's a vicious cycle, and completely unnecessary, unless of course you're in it to help those who despise you most.

Uploaded 02/17/2014
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