I was a nervous little boy that sucked my thumb and twirled my hair when I entered into kindergarten. This nervousness was not caused, but compounded by, bullying. I am not, however, prepared to defend people who are too frightened to stand up for themselves when they feel bullied.I was the butt of many a jokes; people would point and laugh at me when I twirled my hair. This taunting forced me to adapt to a situation that I was required to be in. I did so by accommodating their laughter with funny dances, jokes, and self-targeting insults of my own. You see, I learned that once people realize you not only do not mind their insults, but revel in them, they lose interest and move on. These parlor tricks did not make me many friends, but these devices allowed me to cope and deal with my issues as I saw fit.When I met people in a similar situation, being made fun of for things they did or did not do, I made sure to offer them my friendship. These alliances allowed for both my new found friends and I to weather unendurable hardships. With no form of support, I might have considered going down another path, but I am tired of hearing people being labeled as "victims of suicide." These individuals choose to be targets by not redirecting their attackers, and as a result they make the most selfish decision of all: suicide.Then, after seppuku, all that remains are reaffirmed notions of that person being weak and unfit to continue to live, broken hearts of the ones that truly loved them, as was Kathleen Vail's case, and a victimized people that knew the person who committed suicide.No defense can be made for a committee of self-destruction's behalf because they are not there to voice it. Only excuses can be made and fingers pointed. Who is to blame for suicide when everyone has a choice in the matter?Adults fare no better than children in a lot of ways. There is no one for an adult to cry to when they are teased and belittled. "What are you, a baby?" they might be told. But, society has created a devilishly ingenious device in government to make people feel that they have a fair place to voice their complaints when something goes wrong. Can anyone honestly say they feel one hundred percent confident that their parents or the government will take the appropriate action with regards to their defense? Likewise, if they do make the best choice, what kind of message does that send to the attacker? Weakness, when shown, draws more attacks. It's a natural mechanism that all predators, which humans are, have. Everyone must ultimately be the master of their own destiny or the world will end up filled with endless litigation, as is proposed in Vail's "Words That Wound," that acts like a band-aid on the festering sores of society's backbone. In the darkest of times, in the bleakest of hours, there can always be one reaffirming statement that a doubting individual can rely on: there will always be a chance for tomorrow to be different.

Uploaded 03/11/2010
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